Who’s on your team?

I was lucky enough last week to attend a conference where a motivational speaker “Jen Harwood” spoke about “Greatness Principles”. She spoke emphatically about needing trusted confidants around you. They will help you not only survive but can make you thrive through life. There are essentially 8 different types of people in your life that will help guide your mind, body, spirit and emotion. Some people will make your life better by anchoring and grounding you when you need it, and others who are enthusiasts making your life fun and motivating you to do better.

Without going into too much detail and giving all of Jen’s secrets away, it reiterated the themes of the other presentations from Kurt Fearnly and James Castrission and that is “NO ONE IS EVER SUCCESSFUL ON THEIR OWN”. Kurt had his community, family and coach and James had his best mate to achieve some of the biggest feats in the world.

We all know athletes achieve greatness not only due to their internal motivation, but because of their support people too. Teams, whether it’s sport or at work, are successful because of the people in them and their relationships to and with each other. Successful teams are nurtured by trust and respect.

Jen eluded to the fact that sometimes you lose people who surround you that made your life” that much better””. Sometimes you move away and lose contact, have a falling out and sometimes they die. For whatever the reason, they re no longer in your “team” and it’s easy to get lost and/or lonely.

Almost 8 years ago, I lost what Jen would call my “sage”. Still till this day I can see the unconditional love in my mother’s eyes, no one in this world can and ever will express the same amount of pride when boasting about my successes. In fact, there have probably been people in my past who I have inadvertently removed myself from because the trust and or respect has been broken and irreparable.

When you lose one of your sports team members, staff members or coach/manager, they are usually replaced. Some are even better than the previous team member and some will fill the role but will never be able to match their predecessor. Regardless of what happens and how the position is filled, there needs to be an element of trust in order to work well together and bring out the best in you and your team.

For those who have been following me, know that I “attempt” to play football (soccer). Although I firmly believe my true position is “decoy” they have me on left wing (not that I can kick a ball that well, let alone with my left foot). Last Sunday we had a new player as striker (our other one is out with an injury). Although she had played with a few others before, I had never played together with her, in fact it was the first time she met me. There were several occasions during the game that I was free and called to her for the ball, but instead she defaulted to passing to people she had played with before.

To be honest, if I was a better football player and knew that I would definitely have scored the goals if passed the ball, then I would have been a little upset. I didn’t take it personally and by half time (and after her seeing my A-league throw ins) I had developed enough trust for us to work better together on the field.

It got me thinking, I wonder how many other situations in life that people default to the people who they know and trust…. even worse when they don’t give you a chance to develop that trust. Ever experienced the awkwardness of going up to a group of people who know each other and introducing yourself to them, only to be ignored. Or being in a work environment where they are so used to working with each other it’s hard for you to be seen as part of the team?

I am not saying that any of my teams are like that, but what I am suggesting is “that we should be mindful of how we respond to others who are joining you in your teams”. Do not prejudge, do not make false assumptions based on the opinion of others and do not disregard someone just because you don’t really know them.

You never know, they could end up being one of those team members that will help you achieve “your greatness””. Reference: https://www.thejenerator.com/

Yvette Audet

Yvette Audet

Sport has been an integral part of my life, both work and personal. I grew up with sport, met my husband through sport and now as a mother, am involved more than ever in sport!

As a trainer and consultant in the industry I work with sporting groups and councils to create community facilities and partnerships aimed to increase sport participation.

I have created a range of articles from the perspective of a SPORTING MUM. The articles relate life skills and messages that we can get from being involved in sport. It’s uncanny how Sport can mirror life.


Involved in gymnastics, netball and athletics from an early age, Yvette experienced being part of a team as well as the unrelentless discipline in individual sport – in particular her Heptathlon days.

First became a mum in 2005 and remembers having the inner debate of how long should I play netball while pregnant? Doing quick breastfeeds in between netball games and hoping her uterus wouldn’t feel like falling out when she jumped for the ball.

Funny anecdotes aside, she has worked in the sport and recreation industry for almost 30 years and holds several certificates and degrees around the management and training of sport, community recreation, aquatics and fitness.

Through her various roles in profit and non-profit sectors, she has helped plan for programs, events and facilities to help get communities active through sport and recreation.