Calm under chaos

The other day I was out with a friend who has been heavily involved in coaching his son’s baseball teams. We were talking about the difference in personalities of our offspring.

My son has always been an early bird, self-motivated with his sport and quite intense. He was born two weeks before his due date, in fact my waters broke 2 hours before my handover with the CEO. My daughter on the other hand, was born a week past her due date. There is an ultrasound of her in my belly with her hands on her head just chilling back (true story). I have watched her play soccer and she seems to be unphased when she has the ball, even when the opposition is coming at her. I spoke to one of her coaches and said “she seems to take her time with the ball”, to which he replied “she’s like a duck on the water”. I had not heard of that saying before then. Duck being calm on top of the water, but legs frantically paddling underneath. In other words, she has the ability to remain calm even when she is under pressure.

My friend was explaining how he was quite a fiery player in most sports, yet his three sons were all calm and non-aggressive. He told of a story of how his son, single handedly turned a grand final baseball game around. He was on 1st base, chased an over-throw from the short stop and had the time and accuracy to throw to 2nd base to get the player out. He didn’t panic (unlike his team members), he remained “calm under chaos” and did what he needed to do.

In a previous blog about what makes people the greatest of all time, the ability to remain calm, particularly in stressful situations, is one of the traits. It’s the Tiger Woods ability to bounce back after hitting a bad shot, it’s the Michael Jordan’s who sink the winning shots with 3 seconds to go, and if anyone hasn’t seen the Olympic story of Chloe Esposito 2016 Olympics…google it now!

My husband has often referred to my sporting career as “wasted talent”. In truth however, it was the lack of ability to remain calm under pressure that probably let me down most. Despite my ability to bounce back after a bad event and to refocus on the next, it was my nerves that always seemed to get the better of me! It has always been the moments where I have not panicked, that have yielded the better performances.

Even now in my career, I am still working on not overthinking things and need to let go of the fear of what other people’s opinions may be (aka FOPO -Fear of Other People’s Opinions).

Perhaps instead of embracing the message “just do it” we should be embracing the message “just breathe”!

Yvette Audet

Yvette Audet

Sport has been an integral part of my life, both work and personal. I grew up with sport, met my husband through sport and now as a mother, am involved more than ever in sport!

As a trainer and consultant in the industry I work with sporting groups and councils to create community facilities and partnerships aimed to increase sport participation.

I have created a range of articles from the perspective of a SPORTING MUM. The articles relate life skills and messages that we can get from being involved in sport. It’s uncanny how Sport can mirror life.


Involved in gymnastics, netball and athletics from an early age, Yvette experienced being part of a team as well as the unrelentless discipline in individual sport – in particular her Heptathlon days.

First became a mum in 2005 and remembers having the inner debate of how long should I play netball while pregnant? Doing quick breastfeeds in between netball games and hoping her uterus wouldn’t feel like falling out when she jumped for the ball.

Funny anecdotes aside, she has worked in the sport and recreation industry for almost 30 years and holds several certificates and degrees around the management and training of sport, community recreation, aquatics and fitness.

Through her various roles in profit and non-profit sectors, she has helped plan for programs, events and facilities to help get communities active through sport and recreation.