Letting go

I must confess that I have deliberately tried to avoid using the Strava app for the last 6 years. I am ashamed to show anyone my time splits. I know you can keep the information on personal settings, but most of the time, I don’t want to know how fast or slow I am going (it would be too depressing for me). However, I went totally out of my comfort zone a few weeks ago and did a fun run to help an old friend raise money for Cystic Fibrosis research.

It had been a while since I had ran in a race, let alone 7km. I did the event with my 14-year-old son who is now over 6ft 1 with a beautiful leg stride and considerably faster than me. He of course didn’t train, but I knew he would do it easily. I also knew he would be with me at the start line and maybe the first 20m of the event and then take off, to which he did!

The fact that the people I ran with were old school friends and last saw me a few decades ago, had me even more anxious. These people were expecting me to be a good runner…just like the old days!

Let’s just say, I put the disclaimer in as soon as we arrived that all my running talent has now gone to my kids, and I no longer have it.

Each day I try to go for a jog, some days it is a walk and other days it’s a shuffle. The truth is I no longer run to win races or to do personal bests, I run for me.

Most of the time it is where I can disconnect, particularly when there is no one else around. I am obviously not the only one who feels like this. The new rebel sport advertisement ‘sport is calling’ has tapped into our market and it is the epitome of how my life feels sometimes.

In saying this, it does not stop me from getting annoyed with myself when I see people the same age or older running much faster than me. I have to learn to let it go! My focus for the fun run was to raise $700 in 7 days for the charity (which I achieved), not to run the same 1km split times I did 10 years ago. In fact, as a team we surpassed $30,000 which I think was very impressive.

Growing up as an athlete, you get taught to set goals at an early age. You work hard to achieve your goals. It is as I get older, I realise that I need to occasionally amend my goals to make sure they are realistic. With everything that is going on in my life, it is all about priorities. My goals need to align with my purpose, passion and all the different roles I play (including being a wife and mother).

In life, as well as sport, you need to let go of things in your mind to be able to move forward. I no longer run to represent the country or to get sponsors, I run for my mental health. The people who are much faster than me probably train more or their goals might be based on lowering their times.

There are so many examples in sport where your performance is weakened, if you cannot let things go. A memorable one for some people would be the London Olympics (2012) where the Brazilian Football team (the expected winners) couldn’t come back after Mexico’s early domination. Look at any great golfer, it is just as much a mental game as it is physical. It happens even at a local level in over 35’s women’s football. I couldn’t help but smile the other day when my opponent stopped running and turned to the referee for a penalty. The referee called, “play on” and I took off with the ball whilst the opposition stood there whining.

Sometimes if you can’t let go of things, you fall behind where you want to be.

Let go of things that are not important or make you sad. Focus on what you can control and where you want to be. Stay positive and do what you need to do!

Yvette Audet

Yvette Audet

Sport has been an integral part of my life, both work and personal. I grew up with sport, met my husband through sport and now as a mother, am involved more than ever in sport!

As a trainer and consultant in the industry I work with sporting groups and councils to create community facilities and partnerships aimed to increase sport participation.

I have created a range of articles from the perspective of a SPORTING MUM. The articles relate life skills and messages that we can get from being involved in sport. It’s uncanny how Sport can mirror life.

BIO

Involved in gymnastics, netball and athletics from an early age, Yvette experienced being part of a team as well as the unrelentless discipline in individual sport – in particular her Heptathlon days.

First became a mum in 2005 and remembers having the inner debate of how long should I play netball while pregnant? Doing quick breastfeeds in between netball games and hoping her uterus wouldn’t feel like falling out when she jumped for the ball.

Funny anecdotes aside, she has worked in the sport and recreation industry for almost 30 years and holds several certificates and degrees around the management and training of sport, community recreation, aquatics and fitness.

Through her various roles in profit and non-profit sectors, she has helped plan for programs, events and facilities to help get communities active through sport and recreation.

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